Caregiver bringing her children along. How do I tell her to leave her kids at home?

If you are totally (TOTALLY) satisfied with every other aspect of her caregiving, and this doesn’t happen too often, I might consider asking her to let you know, so you could have everything locked when the family arrives.

I’d want to indicate too, that you are REALLY HOPING, for HER SAKE, that it won’t happen too often, because YOU KNOW how hard it is for her to provide for her children on short notice.

We have taken care of my grands since before the pandemic, but now, not knowing their school program schedules, child care problems are MUCH worse.

YOU are paying her salary so YOU are entitled to be comfortable and relaxed with the work she is doing for you, but honestly, Covid has ruined so many lives, IF you feel as though you can cut her a little slack, I’d give her a chance.

I would ask her about her situation. I'm surprised she didn't ask first. It's up to you whether you want them in your home. You might have to fine a new caregiver though. Also, how does your loved one react to the children? My mom would be thrilled to see children in the house again. Maybe that could be a good relationship? You could talk to the caregiver and set some ground rules and maybe even talk how the kids could help and learn from this experience. If they agitate your loved one, then that would not work. Best wishes you as you go through this.

If you would have asked me a year and a half ago, my answer would be totally different than now.

With schools closed, CGs children are of school age, sometimes it cannot be helped. If you need help, you may need to make a small sacrifice.

That does not mean you cannot define behavior of children in your home. Address the behaviors with the caregiver and the children.

When I ran a babysitting agency a few years ago, we had a hard rule: the sitters were NOT to bring their children along to the clients' homes, period. You would think this should go without saying, but apparently it doesn't, and has to be discussed up front.

It's totally unacceptable for your CG to bring ANY of her children along to her place of employment, never mind 3 of them! Speak to her right away and if she quits, so be it. The fact that she's doing such a thing without prior approval is what's most bothersome to me. What else is doing without your approval, I wonder?

Good luck!

This is really worried situation and some time it's would be hard to say something like this. But you need to tell him before her kids broke anything. Although, She upset for sometime but its will be good for long term.

Just tell her no children. I this problem once. I told her no children in the workplace. Same with pets. She wanted to bring her dog and tie him up in my yard. Not happening. I’m not a pet person, especially not a dog.

This is 100%, absolutely NOT OK.

I have 4-8 yo grands and I would no more take them into work than try to fly. What a nightmare! Half your CG's time is probably spent dealing with the kids.

This may be OK for some people, but you sound unhappy and goodness knows, most of us would feel that way.

If your CG won't leave the kids, then she can't be a CG for you.