I want to relax on my Married Man's Care Giver Time Outs - in my own way, with people who are relaxed, or trying to relax from Care Giver Stress just as I am trying to do - at social events, meetings, support groups, dances, etc. I am friendly mostly with men, couples, and a few solo women, but I have lost track of all the solo women and a few men who think that I want to listen to them TALK to me for hours - I prefer to sit, talk and dance with people who talk 50-50 with me - vs the NON STOP talkers who other people avoid for the same reason that I do -
There are some solo women who respond to my "I am married" with a "I don't care," "Where is she?" "Which one is she" The men want to tell me 10-15 Cornball jokes or ramble on about what's going on in their life - with words spiliing out Non Stop -
VERY Important - the above Non Stop talkers are not - in my mind my friends - but when my friends do this to me, I don't mind and I let them talk to me for a long time - friends vs strangers is different -
My Primary doctor told me this kind of talking - be strangers - is called "seniors lowering their filters" ...... Any comments, ideas, similar experiences and solutions? pete
The old men's talk around the tables can be rather boring, but people just want company. I was lucky being a woman. It always gave me reason to get up after a few minutes.
Do you have any special that you relate to where you live. Sometimes going somewhere with a friend can be fun. It will get you away from caregiving and away from the talkative people who bother you.