Hi
I care for my husband who has brain tramatic injury and two elderly at my home and it is not an easy task. I times i feell fustrated with no one to talk too. I get very depress and oppressed. I had to start working because my husband was the bread winner which he can no longer work. So, i decided to get a housse and bring two elders with me. Well she the (elder) is very easy, but at times can get very difficult. She's has heart congested failure and suffers dementia and due to her heart congested failure she requires alot of rest and the husband wents to keep her going. Her heart rate can go up to 122 then sudden drop to 65 which causes her to get disoriented, and confused. Her husband doesn't realizes the extent of her care that is require. He is very ungrateful and selfish and he wants everything his way. I have thought of walking out on them. But, when i look at her i feel sorry for her and end up staying. I have spoken to his family. The son came and has spoken to him but to no avail, his own selfish ways ruins the peace for her and this house. What should i do?
and even though it won't be pretty or exactly what you want to do, you have to protect your sanity or you will not be good for anyone. I take care of one parent and the lonliness is sometimes unbearable. I would say check out every option for relief through organizations within your state, community, church...talk to people like you are doing on this site. If you have true friends, they will be there to help you. I know that you don't want to dump all of your issues on someone but sometimes we need too and a good friend or family member will understand that. They may not have any answers for you but can be of support as you take ACTION!! When you are depressed getting things done make you feel better and more productive. I wish you every prayer but I think it's time to clean house!!