I live in Germany and cannot come home often. She is losing her license because of vision problems and cannot get around. I have been able to order groceries for delivery. She cannot get to appointments for health care. She needs help and I cannot seem to find the right place to get it in Anaheim, California.
You might also help her set up something like Signupgenius. This is basically an online forum where her appointments and other needs can be placed so her friends or neighbors can sign up to take care of specific tasks.
Good luck.
Explain to them your situation and ask them if they can provide a care manager for her. That care manager can set up the services she needs to maintain her independence. That's what you really need. Someone to be our "eyes and ears" and manage all of this while you are away. If that agency can't help you, you ask them who can or you come back on to this forum discussion and we'll head another direction. Thank you for your service to our country!