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As you guys know that I'm trying to bridge the distance with my moms Alzheimer's, with her not wanting to stop giving stray cats food outside her condo in a condo community (there are laws about causing cat infestation for doing this), I tell her not to do this and the next day she forgets and puts food again for these animals (I stand to be fined several times from the condo actin.) Now I'm wondering if she eats a complete meal. Lately Ive been seeing her frog with food not consumed. That worries me. I'm about to leave her here in texas and go back to work on the west coast. Texas Human services is helping a bit with some assistance but she is still alone. She can't go outside anymore with out falling some where. I've contacted other agencies here in Texas to see what they can do. I would appreciate your suggestions. I don't have sufficient resources per say to put her in an assisted living place yet. In my mid forties but very stressed about this whole thing. No area relatives that can help either.

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You say that your Mom has Alzheimer's and I am assuming that this is diagnosed? I think that if she does have this it is too late for her to be making any POA for you to handle things. I agree with others; she is not accepting your help. To go for a guardianship would have some cost. The least expensive way to do it would be to have APS open a case and BEG YOU to get emergency guardianship, which they can expedite if they wish. If you don't want guardianship say that she will not cooperate with you, you cannot leave your life to care for her, and suggest State Guardianship. You will have no say in anything at that point, but they will handle getting her registered for medicaid, and etc. and handle things that she will not allow you to handle. I wouldn't have a clue what to do other than that myself. All of this is difficult enough with a completely cooperative senior.
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VC, as above, report her to APS as you leave Texas.

Your mom has made poor decisions in the past couple of years and apparently does not see you as a trusted, supportive family member (NOT your fault). So, she is going to have to rely on public funds and public programs.

This is HER choice, not a failing on your part.
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Yes, Assisted Living facilities are self-pay and are expensive plus they are for those that may have some physical problems like some mobility issues, maybe some minor cognitive issues. It sounds like your mother could have more serious memory issues and may be in need of a long-term care facility with a Memory Care section. After she has an evaluation by MD, she may qualify for LTC. Also, research Medicaid (community care) qualification in Texas.
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Go home. Call Adult Protective Services before to report a vulnerable adult living alone. Call the Area Agency on Aging to see what assistance they can provide.

It is not your responsibility to pay for her care. That is hers.
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