My mother adopted one of the foster kids she kept when she was 71. Now at 84 they have many problems. She wants to put him in a group home. My husband and I want him to live with us. Sibling rivalry and anger is happening. Mother nags this kid 24-7. She has always maintained grudges for years, and will go on about something for months on end. She doesn't want me to get involved due to spite. What should I do?
Carol
She's obviously got a very good heart in spite of being a nag. If she's thinking of a group home, are you saying that the boy has special needs? Since you are willing to take him in, could you possibly start with a "helping her out by having him with you a little at a time and with you more a time goes by?"