I know that its hard when mama and daddy got to getting older. My daddy passed away 2 years ago and my only brother doesn't talk to mama but they have never had a very good relationship. But now I been having chest pains and I finally it's been about 4 years and I don't have any help at all. But my mother talks to me now while she is actually hurting me and tells me she knows she is hurting me. I thought at first she was doing it for attention but I don't know if this sounds crazy but I don't know how far she would go thinking she might get my brother to come around if I was dead and gone and I know that may sound insane or to me it does but there is something that is telling me she is doing that. I don't know what to do. Could someone please give me advice please.
Mom is really not that old. Does she have a health problem that she needs care for? Since Mom lives with you and if this is situation is causing you health problems, maybe its time for Mom to find a place of her own. She should be getting Social Security. There maybe Senior housing near you that charge rent on scale.
You can't continue this way. Your Moms thinking isn't rational. If she becomes violent call the police and have her removed from your home saying she is a threat to you. They may put her under 72 hr Psychic watch. Do not allow them to try and return her to ur home. Tell them u feel threatened. If u need to, allow the State to become her guardian. Yes, u will not be able to have any input in her care but she will get what she needs faster than u can.
You are a vulnerable adult.
Forget your brother. He isn’t in the picture and it isn’t your responsibility to bring him into the picture. Don’t allow your mom to place that burden on you. In fact do not allow her manipulate you about anything.
What exactly are her health issues? What do you feel can help her? Not what she wants but what she needs.
Needs and wants are two different things. I’m talking about what do you feel she needs to improve her quality of life. Start there. Don’t let her intervene with nonsense. She doesn’t have the right to abuse you in any way.
If she's hurting you in an effort to get your brother to come around, and you think she may even kill you, then FOR SURE call 911 the next time this happens! She needs a good exam by a competent doctor to see what's going on here, BEFORE she does irreparable harm to you.
Listen........just because she's your mother does NOT give her the right to hurt you! In fact, no mother in her right mind knowingly hurts her own daughter. Which is why I believe your mother is probably NOT in her right mind!
Good luck!