Dad sexually harasses his caregivers since his stroke. What can be done?

As a nurse, I must tell you that this isn't unusual behavior. Those who never swore, never would have acted out in this manner, suddenly...................
And anyone with even minimal training in working with stroke or dementia are aware of this
This is NOT within your Dad's control for the most part and in the greater number of cases.
Ask to speak with administration, ask if you can leave a note for caregivers about just how you feel. Trust me, they will understand. I have had folks not only grope me but hook me with their canes! They aren't in control of themselves. I think the more you talk quietly and briefly with caregivers the more they will pass that around. Take in a massive box of donuts and say how sorry you are they have to do this, how embarrassed, and how this just isn't your Dad.
They will understand. OR they are in the wrong business.

Medication can be adjusted as well as changed once it has reached the required blood level. Levels can be increased as well as decreased as needed. The phrase "medicating into a stupor" and the word "zombie" are often used as a rallying call for objection to ANY medication. IMHO approaching the situation with an open mind will benefit your LO.

It may not have been appropriate.. but I once heard an older lady say "you keep your hands nice Sir. If you touch me again the water in this shower is going to run cold". She said it worked, some were quicker learners than others.

Does your dad have a Neurologist or a geriatric Psychiatrist you can consult with to see about meds to help with this behavior? If not, I suggest you get these doctors involved with his care to see what can be done to help him with this agitated behavior; for his sake as well as all of you that have to deal with him. He may not have the ability to understand that his words and actions are offensive to others, as is often the case when the brain has been damaged from a stroke.

Wishing you the best of luck with a difficult situation.

His stroke affected the fronto-temporal areas of the brain. He has lost all sense of appropriate social behavior. He is unable to control his behavior. His animal instincts are on the loose. There is no medical cure for this disorder other than to keep him heavily medicated at all times.

Consult his doctor about antiandrogen meds such as Eligard. Lower testosterone should result in lower sex drive and behavior. It is given in IM injection once per month, 2 months or 3 months. He will need calcium supplements with vitamin D3 to avoid osteoporosis.

Please talk to his neurologist and probably a geriatric psychiatrist about these problems. Your dad has lost his ability to filter his thoughts/words. He also has lost the ability to control his impulses. Medications may help him to relax more and act a little less on his impulses.

How does he manage to grope anyone? It shouldn't be that hard for any reasonably nimble caregiver to stay out of reach out of a wheelchair bound hemiplegic stroke survivor. If the free hand wanders, they can help avoid that by giving him something to hold: a cup, a wash cloth, whatever forms part of the routine they're carrying out.

Honestly, I think you probably feel much worse about this than the staff do. You say you realize it's the brain damage, but do you really realize that? Understanding something in words isn't the same as accepting the reality of it, sometimes.

It's very sad for him, it undermines his dignity, it's a loss to him as a person, and I grant you it's not going to win him any Most Adorable Resident prizes. But it is no excuse for neglect or substandard care. What has anyone at the facility had to say about it?

Inapportaite behaviors comes with the territory, those working in the care facility should understand and even expect it. As mentioned he will not make many friends but his care should not be negatively impacted because of such behavior, and if a caregiver working in a facility does provider sub-par care for such a reason they should be terminated ASAP.

This comes with the territory.

My mother told the staff at her new home that I was my father's other woman. I couldn't help feel that the staff didn't know whether to believe it or not. I was so embarrassed.