When he wakes up sometimes five or six times a night, he is confused,thinks it is time to get up and get dressed. We finally had to get a catheter because he was always wetting himself and the bed. Now he just has a little trouble with his bowels. My niece has been staying nights to help out. Mom is rather deaf and a very sound sleeper, so doesn't always her Dad get up. Everyone is getting very exhausted doing this night after night. Dad still has pretty good memory of people and places. Mostly motor skills are getting bad. Where do we find someone to help
2or3 nights a week?
One idea to help cut down one the sundowning (it doesn't always work) is to wear him out pleasantly during the day. Adult day care is a good way to do this. He'd have activities and make friends and that may - just may - help him sleep better.
This is tough, I know. I hope you find a way through this so you can all get some sleep. AD is a moving target so sundowning may not last forever, but he'll have other issues. It's good to involve other caregivers so you can learn about them.
Take care,
Carol