Mom has dementia and she is acting more and more like a spoiled little brat. She has more mobility than my Dad and her therapists wants her up and moving as much as possible, so if she needs something that she can get herself I let her do it. Dad on the other hand is very weak and can walk some, but he asks for a lot of things and everytime anyone gets or does something for him she goes into a cussing and swearing tirade about how she would be better off in a nursing home. How do I deal with this.
7 months??? Nothing sooner??? Wow!
It's about quality of life....your's and your children/grandchildren's also.
The dementia may be frustrating her, but not a reason to make your lives miserable.
Thanks for the feed back. 7 months is way too long to wait. A good psychiatrist could make a sound assessment. Sorry but I don't trust general family doctors with mental health meds or hormone treatments. Too often they know just enough to almost be helpful if not downright dangerous to absolutely horrible from my experience.
her baseline is that of a kind and gentle person, but when aggitated she is verbally abusive, hostile, manipulative and a skilled sabatour.
have you considered visiting a geriatric psychiatrist?
i made an appt with one, as i was getting to the end of my rope, but loath to put her in an institution. he prescribed a very low dose of ativan for anxiety. choosing to treat for anxiety rather than targeting the dementia or schizophrenia specifically has worked well. we upped her dose to twice a day as the agitation escalated, but she is still on a pretty low dose and has been stable for months now.
at first i didn't embrace the concept of 'medicating' my mom, but the quality of her life and that of her family/caregivers aka me, has increased exponentially in our case. she is her kind self again, only minus the 'evil twin'.
good luck to you and your mom~