My husband does not like it when I go check on my parents (5 hours away). I have had to be gone quite a bit lately since my dad is in the hospital. Now I have to find a new place for them to live since the memory care where they live is not able to deal with his difficult behavior. I’m spread so thin as it is. I am the only child so there is no one else.
Yes folks need assistance, but not at the cost of your marriage. Have you thought about a geriatric care manager? That person could be the boots on the ground so you do not have to go as often.