Hello. Hoping to get some frank advice. My dad was diagnosed with dementia about five years ago. It started slow where he was somewhat forgetful, but it has gotten progressively worse.
My mom was his primary caregiver up until she was diagnosed with cancer eight months ago. Sadly, about a month ago, my mom died. He is currently being cared for by caregivers.
I knew the memory loss was bad, but didn’t realize how much my mom endured during her final years. My dad’s repetitive questions, angry temper, and false accusations got worse and worse over time.
My question here is asking for advice on how to personally deal with his behavior. For example, my father lost or hid his wallet. It was always in his possession. He doesn’t believe he lost it and is accusing everyone, including me, of stealing it. He makes vicious comments to myself and the caregivers about how the person who stole it will be punished by God.
He calls me about ten to fifteen times a day about a subject that is currently on his mind.
I always answer the phone for fear that it might be an emergency. My wife recognizes my frustration. I am hoping for some helpful suggestions so that my frustration doesn’t get misdirected towards my family.