Hubby will wake up during the nite needing to p_e, but doesn't know where the bathroom is (he's lived in this home for 30 years) or how to pull down his pants and p_e. He doesn't have a UTI as we're on Urologist watch right now. It's a dementia thing.
Hopefully, he would stop getting up to go to the bathroom. I would discuss it with his doctor to see if he thinks it would be safe for him. You have to get some sleep. If you are not in a position to play for overnight care, you will soon be very burned out from lack of sleep. Take care.
he fights the diapers.he cannt use his fingers very well.I let him have longer nails he uses themto pick thins up and un do chothes. nshg home has a fit but he hasnt tried to srcatch anyone and its actually used as prostetic he has sensory defecit and his hand were smashed. They arent offering ot even though he hads orders.
I asked the pain mgmt orthopedic.who does sport med rehab. so hes going to see what he can do. he has a shoulder /joint/ and upper arm prostetic r, he cannt open his armpit up I had him better than Dr surgeon expected but they dont do anything for him. He satays filty and hair and body stinks.
I think they got mad when the hospice nurse bathed the people they said they couldnt.
A lot of talking but, distracting him gets it done he has a million excuses. convincing too. You have to do it without touching him which hurts.
glad you able to get night time help. They wouldnt give that to me with his medicaid longterm care.
I'd also let him be uncovered for about 1/2 of an hour to see if he realizes he's cold and will cover up himself.
To me, Hubby is just like a kid. I'd suggest to my kids something and see if they could figure it out on their own in a non-dangerous way. Like the 1/2 hour for hubby's blankets.
A man was sent once because when asked, I didn't care if a man or woman came. Well, no more men. Hubby, being in law enforcement, didn't like this burley gentleman helping him at night. So women at night only. Daytime? Well, we'll see if and when I'll need a full time daytime caregiver.
Thank you for your answers.
I have found with my husband it works best to let him stay up after the first time he wakes up to pee around 2 a.m. He will have a bowl of cereal & fall asleep on the couch for the rest of the night. I go back to sleep too. For some reason, he will keep waking up if I keep putting him back to bed. I think part of the getting up is him thinking he needs to go to work. Eating cereal tries him out, I guess, & he forgets about going to work.
Recently my husband has started wanting to go pee every 10 to 20 minutes starting around 3 p.m. Drives me crazy!! A form of sundowning? Sometimes I can sidetrack him with activities, like "folding" laundry. I have a basket of old clothes & towels that are always in the basket. He doesn't notice that they are the same & always in the basket.
The last two nights I have been monitoring his wake ups using a pager system. I did this because I would wonder why his pj's were wet in the morning and not the bed being wet. I've realized his toilet actions are out of sync with his brain. He woke up 7 times Sunday nite and 4 times last night. A catheter is the only thing I can think of so both Hubby and I can get our sleep. Sometimes of those times awaking at nite, he was lucid and everything went ok. But the wakeups after about 2 am were dementia related.
Like I mentioned, we are under a Urologist's care presently and there isn't a UTI. I will double check that today.
Any little tricks anyone might have , could you please post them. Thank you in advance.