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She has said on frequent occasions early in the morning " i'm Sick of it here". how doyou not let that hurt your feelings. I understand when the demensia is bad and can let comments go but those said when she is"with it" really hurt.
Hi my sister and I got a call around a year and a half ago to Come and pick up my step mother from a rehabilitation hosp in nc,this was in Aug she had fallen in may and fractured her back, plus started with dementia, we live in Nj, my stepmother has a house in nc, the Dr said she cant live alone anymore, we brought her to assisted living but she said it was to much money, so she is living with me, my sister is poa and my step mother keeps saying she wants to go home, but she cant and we don't know what to do.
Validate her statement to you. You can say," Mom I know you want to be at your own home but you were not safe there which is why we brought you here. We love you and want you to be safe." Then redirect the conversation to something else. The best thing I have heard so far is "You can't win an argument with someone with Dementia". I always keep that in the back of my mind. Hope this helps you too.
Dementia, as you well know is terrible. If she had a kind soul prior to the disease, she is grateful. If you are capable of s few minutes away, jogging around my house and praying have helped me cope. My neighbor asked me today why I was running at 3am? My answer, therapy!
Tell her you love her very much, that you need to keep her safe. That you don't want any harm to come to her. And honestly trying to redirect her attention can be a godsend.
When my Mom says things like this, it's hard not to let it hurt my feelings.. She is my Mom. I'm learning that it's the dementia talking.. but for that moment, it stabs like a knife. Taking care of my Mom is one of the most challenging things I have ever done. I know she loves me. I know that she is grateful. But no one is here to tell me out loud. My inner voice doesn't always speak up. Thanks for your comments. They do help.
As a caregiver, you cant take anything they say too personal. Deep down inside what hurts is that you know that if they didnt have the Dementia, they most likely wouldnt have said the hurtful words to you. When you face that fact, reality of this disease it what your feeling and I know first hand it is stressful and breaks your heart at the same time. My advice is to remember, they are expressing feelings they have with the only words they can remember to use...so think of it this way: "im sick of it here" probably means "I am feeling lost right now". To keep strong, remember who they were BEFORE this disease consumed them and why you are there to caregive for them. They may not remember...but they still feel. Good luck :) Keep your head up! Cherish the good moments.
She may mean she is sick of her situation which has no bearing on you. My mom told me to leave her alone until I grow up, haha!! People with dementia say all kinds of things so just take it with a grain of salt. It can be hard to ignore. I take it she lives with you?? If you can, take her to adult day care a few times a week to break up her routine and provide her with social stimulation. I wish I could get my mother to go just to the senior center but she won't. Take care and stay positive.
It does hurt to hear those things... it doesn't mean she isn't grateful, it means her life is upside down too.... that is not to take anything away from your feelings... and with her having dementia, she will forget she said it...and when you are not so tired , you will let it go.... hopefully.... you apparently are doing a great job... always keep that in mind.... hope things get better for you... let us know how you are... hugs and angels....
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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Come and pick up my step mother from a rehabilitation hosp in nc,this was in Aug she had fallen in may and fractured her back, plus started with dementia, we live in Nj, my stepmother has a house in nc, the Dr said she cant live alone anymore, we brought her to assisted living but she said it was to much money, so she is living with me, my sister is poa and my step mother keeps saying she wants to go home, but she cant and we don't know what to do.