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Any good articles/suggestions regarding depression in caregivers. I feel utterly tied to this house and my elderly mom. My wife (love of my life) recently passed. I was in great health. During my wife's illness I neglected my own health. Now life seems so futile, same routine daily. Just venting, thanks.

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Sorry for your loss, and your current situation. It is likely as part of neglecting your own health, you let exercise slide. If you don't have anyone to relieve you at the house, some kind of exercise bike and weights in the house can help restore that. (But better still outside rec an hour a day, if possible). Also look at your diet, are there any bad coping habits you acquired there that can be changed.

Restoring your own health, could not only help you feel better, but give you a purpose to work toward. A tiny bit of purpose and control over your own life. The choice to continue or end neglect of your own health is anything but futile. (and I don't intend any blame or judgement in this it happens to just about everyone at some point, including myself)

I don't say any of this lightly, or as a substitute for the other suggestions. I just know I would be going bonkers if I didn't get my daily exercise in, or fight bad diet habits as they pop up.

This is not a complete solution (I don't have one for myself either), but it's definitely a part of one. I wish you well, along with everyone else who's struggling.
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anytown Oct 2022
PS. I don't know anything about you (the OP Sooner51), so these may not apply to you or not, but for myself, I haven't completely tuned out the news, I do keep up with what's going on, but beyond that I try to tune out as much of media, social media etc. as possible, much of it can be a toxic sewer. Just a bunch of dogs barking at other barking dogs. Turning that attention from that man-made cr-p to the wonder of the plants and creatures in your own yard can be a lift. And even a lot of the economic news, and pandemic shattered only an illusion of control, that maybe never really existed in the first place. For decades, I've heard people mention, when going through a tough time, that some tuning out of media helped them. A lot of negative manipulation in the media.
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I think you need to find a place for Mom depending what type of care she needs. If its just help with her ADLs then maybe an Assisted Living at her expense. If she needs more on hands care, then a nice longterm care facility. Again on her dime or apply for Medicaid.

You need time to morn your wife. Seems that you may have been Caregiver for 2 people. That was too much. You should have placed Mom then. Time to get your life back. You are overwhelmed. You need to think about your health now. You need to eat well, get exercise, get a good nights rest, have a good physical. You can visit Mom.
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I'm sorry that you are struggling with this. Depression in caregivers is very common. If I were in your situation, I would find a reputable therapist. If you are a member of a church or synagogue you can ask if they offer counseling services. While you are seeking counseling, and if you are a person of faith, pray every morning. I wish you peace in your heart!
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