My 92 yo mother was living at the family home, 2.5 hours away, with caregivers coming in from 10am to 8pm. She has dementia: not changing clothes, throws out caregivers sometimes for no reason, won't let them clean, no short term memory, gets hostile if anxious, calls me or my brother for unusual reasons. She was **insistent on staying in the family home**. She sounds normal in a short conversation, but then repeats herself. With the pandemic, we had emergencies like all caregivers sick with covid, plumbing leak, she knocked out half the electric system by sticking a knife in a socket, caregivers quit, snowstorms, my older brother got covid and had a stroke, etc.
We (younger brother and I) used the excuse of the bad condition of the house to move her "temporarily" to an excellent nursing home near us that specializes in dementia.
She is very angry and mad at me as she says she is in a "loonie bin". There are others in worse shape than her in the home. She demands to be moved to a hotel or back home and puts the guilt trip on me. I had to hang up after 15 minutes of guilt and hate in the last call.
Did we do the right thing?