My dad has dementia and never showers. He does well, otherwise. He has his activities and he likes to sit out front and watch the world go by. But the bathing issue is a real problem. We just spent a small fortune updating his bathroom so that he has a walk-in shower. Looks great but never gets used. We need a place where he can spend a little time with other people and come home cleaned. Is this an option?

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Yes some do. The one in my city offers what they call a spa day, where they will give showers, wash and style ones hair, and shave and trim the men's beards/mustaches.
It's a wonderful service. I hope where you live they offer it as well. Just call and ask.
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Reply to funkygrandma59

I'm hoping you also "seniorized" the shower: bath seat, hand-helf shower head, grab bars, non-slip tiles and rugs, etc. Make it warm enough so that it's enjoyable. Etc.

You may be able to find a 2x a week bath aid on My Aunt had a neighbor (a qualified aid) come do it for her 2x a week. She never loved it but became more accepting of it eventually. I recommend finding a guy if at all possible (experienced). As long as you do the same amount of time, same days, same times it will give you a better chance of finding the right person. The shaving thing is an issue for the guys...
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BurntCaregiver Jun 3, 2024
Good advice, Geaton. A lot of times the older guys don't want a woman helping them with bathing and washing. Totally understandable. I think I would prefer to be helped in succh a way by a woman.
I don't think so. But you sure could call around and ask.

You may need to hire a male aid to come two or three times a week. They are often good at kind of just walking them into and through it 1-2-3.

What does your Dad say when you discuss this with him?
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Reply to AlvaDeer

Some adult daycare centers offer showers and hygiene care. Not all of them, but some do. Call a few places.
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Reply to BurntCaregiver

Hire a certified nurse Practitioner ( CNA ) Thats what I did and she came twice a week and did some light housecleaning Like laundry .
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Reply to KNance72

Well! I had not heard of that service here - but I can see the need! They must have the staff to manage or course, cycle them through the bathroom in the morning (just as residential aged care does).

Having an aide come to the home 2-3 x a week & to keep up that routine has been the solution for my lot.
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NeedHelpWithMom Jun 3, 2024
Yes, it would definitely be a plus in choosing the best daycare option.
Some do. You would have to call and ask the one that is in your area. Some may do it only if there is a fecal accident that needs to be taken care of. I think in this day and age of litigation places that may have in the past are no longer doing showers.

You might be better off hiring someone to come in 2 or 3 times a week that will do a shower. People that do Shower Aid work are very skilled at getting non compliant people into the shower.
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Reply to Grandma1954

My Moms Daycare did offer bathing and I took advantage of it. Itvwas part of the initial cost. She went Monday, Wednesday and Friday.
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Reply to JoAnn29
NeedHelpWithMom Jun 3, 2024
I suppose this was a routine thing for your mom. I think it’s a wonderful arrangement. Definitely a plus to have this service available.

Home health care provides aides to assist in basic hygiene care, so why shouldn’t daycare providers do the same.
I have never seen hygiene services offered for adult daycare. I think it’s a great idea. I would check to see if this is available in your area.

There are a few organizations that offer hygiene services for homeless people in our area. They provide hot showers, razors, toothpaste and toothbrushes, etc.

Wishing you luck in this area!
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Reply to NeedHelpWithMom

Both of the senior day cares that my Mom went to offered bathing services as a separate fee.

You need to ask.
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