Thank you all for your earlier help..we tried every way possible to leave dad at home with help, but we got guardianship and pulled his car keys and he got violent and we had to take him to a hospital for evaluation. We ended up getting him in to a lock down assisted living facility. He keeps asking when he gets to go home..I keep skirting the issue and telling him we have to wait on the dr. to tell us...He still comes up with crazy stories and wants to act on them...he knows something is wrong..how do I talk to him? How do I answer the going home question and how do I assuage this huge guilt that is ripping my stomach to pieces??? I know we did the right thing..! TIA
This is probably the hardest dilemma you will ever face. Just to be open about the situation, it is probably not fair to the ALF staff to pin "not going home" on them! By this stage of the game, all logic and reasoning is over. IMHO, you just need to tell them what you need to tell them to keep them calm. (And keep telling yourself that you did the right thing: he is safe, fed, cleaned, medicated and looked after!)