My uncle will be 90 next month-He lives alone out of state. We have not heard from him-and its hard to reach him on the phone. His neighbor seems quite involved in his activities- for she changed his phone number without letting us or other family members know. She did not appreciate my critique of her actions. Neither her or my uncle gave a valid reason for the change in number. But he was involved in a elder exploitation 3 years ago. He gave away 18 thousand.. Because of a phone call and a money making scam he got involved in. Adult protection was involved at that time and contacted me. I do not trust this woman at all. But I have no way to check on him. Do you think adult protection would do a welfare check? for us. Due to the fact he was exploited for $$ in the past? And lives out of state?
If you aren't involved in your uncle's life, which its clear you are not, I'm sorry, but you have little right to criticize a neighbor who is helping him. Undoubtedly, your faux concern rings quite hollow to the neighbor who's doing the heavy lifting.