My dad is 90 y/o. diabetic just having hip replacement, has sores on heels both feet and as a result his balance isn't that good. How much influence does his doctor have on deciding weather or not to let him resume driving? Dad is a very arrogant and thinks he is healed enough HELP US.. or any suggestions!!
I also went to the local police. They told me to disable my parent's car. We thought we did, only to find out it backfired. And my Mom was driving with a suspended lisence, and Dad when he shouldn't have been. I also took the keys away, thinking that would thwart their efforts. Warning: they can be real clever, and get new keys made, etc. I also had to deal with the anger, and fear (living 200 miles away).
It literally took several months before the Secretary of State acted. They sent a letter to my folks, asking them to appear for a driving test. If they don't appear, it's an automatic loss of license. Since Dad's doctor wrote that he didn't think Dad was capable of driving, they clipped the corner on his right away. Mom didn't show up for her test, and we just drove her car away. Boy, were they both angry!!! By then, I was Guardian, and knew I had acted in the best interest of all concerned. It was not easy, but had to be done. I've since sold both vehicles. Due to that, and their failing health, neither will ever drive again.
Some of us have children just now driving. I understand he doesn't want to lose his freedom, but I doubt he'd want anyone to lose their child either.
Flexability is important. I am sure you have already told him this, and he doesn't think HE will ever cause an accident or death. None of us PLAN to do that. He isn't either.
Try to explain to him that there are a bunch of crazy drivers out there, he needs some really quick reflexes to dodge them.
And then...take away his keys. Disable the car. drain the fuel. cut the fan belt. remove a hose, let the air out of his tires. lock the steering wheel...
Save a life.
Good luck. My mom's neurologist is doing the deed soon, and no one but me believes that her doctor will really take her license away. Then we must disable the car, because she won't care (or remember) if she can legally drive or not.
We are adults too. Even if our parent's refuse to ever acknowledge it. Do what you know you need to do.