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The cameras are in plain sight. They had them prior to this agency for the moms security and to check on her well being. Many people have security cameras in their home. I would definitely put up a few camera in use signs
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BurntCaregiver May 2023
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If the agency agreed that they are fine with their caregivers being on camera then there should not have been a problem.

Were the caregivers told they were going to be on camera? That would have been the responsibility of the agency who employs them to let them know.
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Good point Burnt. You'd think an agency would inform their caregivers about security cameras in the home.
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Everyone...the agency did get rid of the caregiver. We found out yesterday that a report to APS has been made against my family. When this caregiver was told she would no longer be on this case, she said she was going to "tell all". And then texted one of my family members and said "it's on". A week later, APS is standing at my loved one's door. The complaints are so totally false. Asked if someone was stealing her money and if someone (a male family member) was watching her undress on the cameras. Of course, my 92 year old loved one just shook her head yes to everything (according to the caregiver there with her). We know that all of this is ABSOLUTELY FALSE and beyond absurd, but are now worried because my loved one nodded yes to his questions. When my mom and I talked with her about the visit yesterday afternoon, she at first had no remembrance of anyone visiting her, then when reminded someone had come to see her, she had no clue who the guy was and no idea what questions he asked her or what she said yes to. Surely APS will talk to more people than just my 92 year old loved one. It's been over 24 hours and they have not called any of us family members (including POAs) or the caregiving agency. I guess my question is, should one of us call this guy to give our side of the story or wait for them to contact us?
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Llamalover47 May 2023
JenUA1: Thank you for your update.
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Fire them immediately that’s your love one how dare they.
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Yes! I believe a camera is a must for their safety! You need to fire that nasty arrogant caregiver! To curse like that in front of the camera?? Obviously they have something to hide that they don’t want you to see. My mom is 84 with dementia and I have a baby camera on her at all times. I am fortunate that the caregivers that come to care for her (she lives with us but I do run out frequently when they are here so far only 4 hrs a day) they know about it and do not have a problem with it. I MAINLY use it to check on her especially at night as she has a tendency to get up out of bed and falls a lot. Terrible that you need to worry about the caregivers on top of worrying about your mom. Appalling behavior that needs to be reported to the agency that you have put your trust in.
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Yes, it helped my when wife decided to take off from the house.
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I read half the responses and didn’t see this scenario. Our youngest sister takes care of our mid 80’s parents, who have poor health, and dementia. Mom is immobile and incontinent. Our sister refuses help and is in full power, cause our parents gave her the POA, full control and they think she knows everything. She never left their home, and their codependent behavior is crippling to all three of them.

When I’m visiting their three bed, two bath small condo, that the three oldest daughters and our families relocated them to, after 43 in their big split level, that they stopped taking care of responsibly, and mom could barely get up the stairs, I felt pretty sure cameras were installed and whenever I am in their home, I’m not left alone with my parents. Our sister guards her mommy and daddy from the oldest two daughters, me and two year younger sis, cause we are as different from her as it gets, raised by parents that did not let us do whatever we wanted, there is a 14 year difference, between me and my youngest fulltime caregiving sister. She is in the job cause she never left home, and she knows to let mom and dad do as they please, the same way they expected nothing of their youngest daughter. Us older kids did not get this extraordinary privilege and we have always been dutiful to our parents. But the oldest three began our own lives, had our own family.

If caregivers paid to take care of family members are upset to have cameras on them at all times, try being a daughter who has a sister that feels she must protect her parents from, for no damn reason. I always behave appropriately, could care less if she is recording me, and a mentally ill note, from our youngest sister, let us know she is saving every word on the fourway sister thread. When I expressed a frustration that she shared no actual medical information, she blasted me with 30 screenshots, taken of conversation from the fourway sister text chain, she considers evidence she does give us info. I could have used those same screenshots to prove my case to be true. It is maddening, the crap she writes to us as tho we know nothing about memory loss disease, medical issues, and her condescending, patronizing behavior, makes it tough to hang in there for our parents, cause they created this monster.

I appreciate this forum cause you folks helped me realize it is their problem and I am not obligated, should have no fear of guilt cause my parents aged badly, no responsibility for their own health. They have all the health problems that lead to dementia, and their two oldest daughters are doing everything to break the generational curses, in our dysfunctional family.

I will never do to my son and daughter what my parents did to our younger sister, and she sadly owes them, cause she never left them. Her enabling turned them into people that left us much earlier than necessary. Our parents did not become the partners they needed to be, to take care of themselves, like their older children are doing now, in our 60’s.

I will never cause a fight or try to take over my mom and dad. I will visit often enough to ensure they are safe, and until they ask for help, our youngest sister will bear all the burden for the choices she alone made. I am certain I will have zero relationship with her after our parents die, as well as the third down narcissistic horrible sister. Us two older gals will look out for each other and our husbands, encourage each other to keep moving, and none of us are taking the medicine the other four family members do, cause they depend on pills to keep them alive. Vitamins are what us four oldest, next generation family members take. We benefitted from knowing some health things truly matter, and moving is one of them. Mom stopped moving way young and now dad had to sit next to her every minute, cause she is afraid of life. Memory loss disease is hell on earth, but much can be avoided, if one just doesn’t sit 24/7. Cameras don’t bother me. Film away. ♥️
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