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Am considering this, as he is agitated and lonely at the AL. He is 95% deaf, and talking on the phone is difficult. He lives in FL, I'm in SC. But I'm concerned that home health care workers would sicken him with Covid 19. He says the virus is fake news. Has anyone a similar experience? I feel terrible and guilty that he might die alone in AL.

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Can you move him closer to you? My friend is moving her great aunt from back east to be closer to her in the west. Just for that reason. She won't be alone. She will be close by and near family.
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go home, go home, go home, was my mom's mantra. everyday.... I still feel guilty. She is in God's house now. she is home .. It was a very long journey.
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How would a different set of rooms & different staff change his agitation & loneliness?

I don't think I get the question here. Is it better to die alone at home than alone in AL?
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That he is convinced that Covid is fake news indicates that Dad is not quite rational. How many people would have to die before he was convinced otherwise?

It is not rational for you to take him out of the AL and put him in his home or yours. If you are thinking of him coming to live with you and having aides to help, remember there would be potential spread of the virus to everyone in your household. Even the act of moving him increases exposure and Florida is a bit of a hot spot at the moment.
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ZippyZee Jun 2020
Well said
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Is there any chance to relocate him to a facility near you? Long-distance caregiving, especially when the LO is in-home, will be like a full-time job -- especially if he is almost totally deaf. He will die alone in his home and you will have done a lot of work for the same result. Perhaps you can hire a male companion for him to hang out with at the AL in FL? My aunts in FL love their agency companion and have had her for 6+ years. They are 98 and 101. She drives them places and plays cards with them, but they are not hard of hearing. Others on the forum can provide some good insights for you. I wish you success in helping your father!
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Beatty Jun 2020
Great idea. Last year I met a man very disabled with advanced Parkinson's with dementia (non verbal) but walking. His wife was heartbroken to place him in MC. She hired a male aide to take him walking in the garden a few times a week or read the newspaper to him. His face lit up when he saw his new friend.
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