Does anyone have or know where I can get a donated lift recliner? Medicare only pays for the lift mechanism.

Download the app "Nextdoor" and post your request. If on facebook, see if your town has an online yardsale site and post ur request. Craig's list.

Sorry, "Retire the small wires on the remote fo the on I have now??? " I don't understand that sentence. If it has to do with something being wrong with a lift chair you already have, call the manufacturer. Lazyboy especially has lifetime warranties on their chairs.

Wildflower:

You wrote us in October of 23 desperate to get your ex hubby into care.
You have written us several times about your circumstances and about being overwhelmed.
We often go back to look at people's profile to help us answer current questions.

funkygrandma gave you a compassionate conjecture because you spoke of an injury to your wrist. In October you told us you have lupus. I think it is not cruel to suggest to you that you should consider your own health.

I truly do not have any idea about the chair, nor how to handle the problems with the chair.
I have seen people put things on NextDoor such as "Anyone experienced with wiring in a lift chair, or willing to give a try at repair?" I see such questions there all the time.

I wonder if you might not find one used on nextdoor or facebook marketplace, or perhaps craig's list. We often see here donations of beds, but in all truth I have never seen one for a lift chair.

I am very sorry for your struggles and I do wish you the best. But I am afraid I agree with grandma that you are risking your own health, and when you are injured and in care he will most certainly have to enter care as well. Sadly that will be late for you. I truly wish you the very best.

No, I don't know where you can get a free recliner. We here on forum live all over the world, and have no idea where you're located to rewire your husband's remote! Maybe ask a neighbor or check out Habitat for Humanity for a recliner. That's where I donated my parents recliners after they passed. The chair won't be free though. Craigslist has a Free Stuff section, check it out too. And Facebook Marketplace.

It sounds like your ex-husband requires more help than you should be providing. Is he really worth breaking your wrist over?
I mean he is an ex for a reason right?
I think he now needs WAY more than a new lift chair, but instead needs to be placed in the appropriate facility where he will receive the 24/7 care he requires and you can just go visit if you so choose and won't have to worry about hurting yourself.

I would go on nextdoor