My mom is rehabbing in a nursing home. I believe my sister who is apparently acting a DPOA (my other sister and I have not been formally notified by my dad that this is the case and there is a severe lack of communication or willingness to share info about my mothers condiditon). I am aware that there are citations against the facility my mom is currently in, having to do with not keeping accurate records of patients' meds. I know that my mom has suddenly been given morphine due to "pain". My mom indicates to me that she only has minimal pain. I am fearful about the level of competence at this nh and my sister is abusing her power as DPOA to further divide the family. Can she override my moms expressed wishes to access her medical records at the nh?
Question I need answering. When Mum drew up her POA they asked if she wanted anyone else to be informed of her decision. She said yes and to let my son know - there are only 3 of involved at all in Mums welfare and only me doing the caring. Do you not have that facility in the states? it is so that if anyone does know of any just cause (I nearly added impediment there from the wedding services) that they can raise them before the POA is registered
My mother has a lot of pain. I know because I am with her all the time and she tells me. She tells her doctor and others that she doesn't have much pain. Sometimes self-reporting by people is not very accurate.
If your sister is healthcare proxy (healthcare POA), then she may have limited access to information if she felt it was hindering what she felt was the best treatment for your mother. You can always visit your mother and discuss things with your sister.
If your mom is seen as incompetent by staff? You may have a problem. You SHOULDNT. But you may. In that case, have mom put it in writing. Notarized. Delivered to the Administrator and Director of Nursing by you.
If your mom is being given morphine, that is per doctor's orders. Talk to the doctor. Doctors giving out morphine for no reason? Very difficult to believe.