He is an old 67 with numerous health problems. Me being a woman and him male well this is awkward getting him to shower at least every other day. Ive threatened him with the idea of a male nurse coming in and washing his hair and private parts . He wasnt too keen on the idea. It worked for a couple of days and that was it. On top of it hes a smoker which can really permiate his clothes and stink horribly. He cant smoke inside so he goes outside with the coat on comes inside never takes it off and sometimes sleeps in it. It breaks my heart to see him like this. Ive told him how it hurts me to see him not care how he smells or looks. He has taken anti depressants in the past but it didnt change anythin. how can I encourage him to take some pride in his apppearance?
@judy1 We are in the process of having a nuerologist test him for dementia. He said there is certainly some impairment due to 2 mini strokes he has had in the past due to the unchecked high blood pressure. Just in the last year i have seen him age so fast, it scares me. I try to let him be as independent as possible to keep him active somewhat but he would rather sit in front of the tv all day at times. I have heart and blood prerssure condition myself.. and i have to take care of my self so I can take care of him.. Its funny because when im beat and tired and nedd a good nap thats when hes says lets go for a visit or lets go to the store. I will usually do that with him because im so happy to see him up and about. I think we are on different time clocks..lol