My Dad has been with us for a year now. He suffers from limited mobility due to a stroke. He told me he wants to die. He has been refusing most everything. He eats very little, drinks nothing and refuses to take his meds and to go to the doctor. What should I do.......let him die? Place him in a NH where I know he will die a lonely old man?
The social worker will help you negotiate your dad's unwillingness to see a doctor and most likely you can arrange a meeting with them before you get your dad involved.
It's one of the hardest phone calls I ever made in my life, because it made it real that he was dying. In retrospect, it was also one of the best calls I ever made, because support from other people at this time makes all the difference in a good way. You and your dad do not have to alone with these difficult decisions.
I know what you're going through. Hang in there. For me, focusing on practical steps in ensuring their care helped me reign in my emotions. I felt like I was actually "doing something" as opposed to being consumed by worry.
Cyber hugs sent to you. God bless you and your dad. It's not easy, that's for sure.
Windytown