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My mother has slept her life away and is dragging my father down health wise. He believes every lie she tells him about her health and has on many occasions checked on the internet for symptoms before going to the doctor's with her self diagnosis.
There is no helping her because she wants to be sick for the attention. She is slowly killing herself by sleeping her life away. I'm sure she will pass in her sleep from a heart attack.
Lay off the Prozac.
my mother passed away due to cancer when i was 25 years old , she wanted to go meet her master and didnt want no treatments , she was only 64 when she died . bless her heart ,
yes i am going to keep on carin for dad cuz he is the only parent i have left . he s a sweet heart . im 47 yrs old and my back is not no sweet heart . back ache like a tooth ache by liftin him to recliner to the wheel chair and to bathroom and so forth . bless his heart he tries so hard to help me so my back wouldnt hurt , he fears going back to nursing home if my back goes then he would have to go to nursing home .
he tries so hard to help me and my back . today my back feels better . wink ...
Enjoy you dad, at 86 he may not be here long. God will bless you for taking care of him.
he did good and tried his best at rehab only cuz he wants to go home and do nothing . i told him if he passes and is walkin then he could come home so he did but is having trouble walkin , leans more to his left , (stroke) .
i told him my house is boring and rehab nursing home is a great place , activies and people to talk to . he growled said oh no no . he is not people person , he rather be with his families . and his recliner and tv ,. he is the boss and he is a man , i let him do what he wants to do , if sitting and watching tv makes him happy then im happy .
i eat breakfast with him , he sees me eat so he will eat , same thing for lunch and supper , night time we get a small bowl of icecream , he likes that .
we get along great , if he dont feel like excerising his legs then thats fine with me , i dont pressure him cuz it will only bring him down and be more depress , let him be lord he s 86 yrs old and had a long rough life , leave dad alone and let him be . its peaceful ....
My sister and her husband was here with me for 8 mos. I was taking care of her. My niece came to visit and she said I looked like H _ _ _. They didn't pay enough money to cover their cost in my home. When I said it wasn't enough she said then we will move out. So they did. We were going $100.00 in the hole each mo. Was so good to get our home back and to have peace again. I ran my butt off for them. Some people just don't know how good they have it. They way she talk to me all of my life I don't think she like me.That is ok at times I didn't like her but I did love her. She was old enough to be my mother. Her daughter and I were two years apart. Maybe it was because I was the last child. God help you with her.
What you're doing would drive me to a straight jacket and rubber room. You are dealing with so much it's a wonder your mother is still with you and she should be thanking you rather than making life miserable. I tend to agree with Reba, however, I also believe it's an attention getter for sure. I'm sure you are doing your best to maintain a nice environment for yourself and your mom, however, there IS only so much you CAN do. As long as you can look in your mirror and know you've done your best, thats what matters. Ever persons tolerance level and situation is very different, so what is good and what works for one may not work for another. Its like a huge crap shoot, we, as caregivers, never know what we're going to get. I've read a lot of fantastic advise and words of wisdom in here, however, there's only some that is useful for me, as my situation is vastly different. It doesn't mean I love my mother any less than the next person, it only means that things where I stand are different. Just there's only so much one person can take. You just keep doing your best neonwocky and know in your heart that you have, that's what really matters, at least in my opinion.
As for you and your son and his faily you are in my prayers get some rest leave the worry to God he asks us to do that. Easier said then done I know bur doable with a little practice. Than you will have the strenght to deal with your son and his family. God Bless you there is always some one who has it harder than I do and I feel ashamed of the way I have ranted today. I know exactly what to do in my case so thank you for the eye opener. Love neon
and now last week my 30 year old son was diagnosed with cancer. he is married and has 3 small children and i am so tired i am just now pray that god will give me the courage and strength to be there for him and his family. which i know that i can and i will. i was ready to get back in the workforce and have time for myself but god has a different plan. please pray for me and my son and i will life each of you also in prayer, for without prayer and faith it is impossible. take care all. carol
"I love you mom." Maybe you have but anything like this to perk her up. A hug or a kiss? Not saying you don't do this but sometimes we forget.
How long has she been with you? If not very long I know I would miss my home that I have lived in for 35 years.