What can be done about an apparent swindling operation that is going on under the guise of a "romantic relationship” with an elderly Widower? Some details as follow: A 30 yr. old female with 3 young (out of wedlock) children is actively pursuing an ongoing relationship (actually prostituting herself) with an 87 yr. old widower with substantial financial means. Significant gifts have been given to this female including a recently purchased automobile and hundreds (perhaps thousands) of dollars in cash for legally questionable items.
We are posing this question as three concerned brothers (sons of the aforementioned 87 yr old man) ranging in age from 53 to 63. Our question is: Are there any steps that can be taken to stop or curb what is apparent to us to be "Sugar Daddy” operation going on here? Is our father simply exercising his right to pursue a perverted sense of happiness or are there measures we can pursue to stop what's going on? There is a very good probability that he will exhaust his financial holdings (most of which was contributed by our deceased Mother) within the next year or two leaving him destitute.
Perhaps, deep down, he knows this is a scam, but he enjoys it so much he doesn't care. Digging up some dirt on this woman might or might not influence his behavior. You know him -- what do you think?
Maybe leaving the woman out of this entirely and making it a purely financial discussion would be more effective. If you can demonstrate that without any extravagant purchases such as a new car and without any major health problems his financial holding will support him for about x years at his current standard of living. If there are major expenses such as putting a new roof on the house, taking a fancy cruise, etc (you don't even have to mention gifts to this woman) then each of those reduces the length of time he can support himself.
If he has an illness that disables him and requires in-home care (or a care center of some kind) that will deplete his resources much faster.
Once his resources are gone he won't be eligible for Medicaid immediately because of having given substantial gifts. There will be penalties based on any gifts given within 5 years of applying for aid.
Do you think that you and your brothers could put together a financial-facts-of-life presentation for Dad, leaving out the girlfriend completely?