My husband and I have been caring for my FIL for the past year and as far as we know, he only has a will set up ( and we are not sure about that ).
Lately, I have noticed a decline in his mental status, as well as physical.
My husband's sisters are very unstable and have never done anything to help their father but are dependant on him for money and transportation. One lives at home and the other one next door. To say there has been dysfunction, would be an understatement.
My FIL owns his home and it is paid for. We moved in with him last year.
We are concerned, upon his passing that he will leave the home to the three of them, which my husband does not want. We have helped pay for numerous repairs, complete landscaping of the yard, and I am the caretaker.
I personally do not care, because I don't believe a word the man says ( my FIL lies ), but my husband feels hurt that his father will not get these affairs in order. My husband does not even speak to one sister and does not trust them.
How can we encourage my FIL to have all of this in the open with my husband?
Thanks
I feel your pain about the POA, etc. Was like pulling teeth to get Mom to do this. Then she leaves me off of everything. I have voiced my opinion about this and told her I will not seek guardianship of her if my brother should die. I mean it. (Guardianship is what you have to do if there is no POA in place and the parent is incompetent) I have a son in law who practices family law and he advised me to make a good faith effort to help, then walk away. Seeking guardianship is very expensive and time consuming. So I warned her up front and she is competent, so she should understand the situation. Tell your FIL if one of the daughters seeks guardianship of him and they are granted the guardianship, he loses all his rights and the guardian takes complete control. Of course a judge probably wouldn't grant either sister guardianship, but FIL doesn't have to know that. Maybe that will work.
The other daughter is not as bad and I do not really have a problem with her. She lives in the home.and collects disability for some type of mental problem.
My husband just does not want to be financially responsible for any of his sisters and we believe the father may have some type of stipulation in his will.