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Sounds like everything will be okay for now. Good that you stood firm about offering more assistance...you already have enough on your plate. If you like the ALF she is in and you are all checking in on her, that sounds like she is being attended to. I understand her anxiety. No one wants to go to a facility - no matter how nice it is. I am working really hard to keep my Mom out of one, but, if I can no longer provide her medical assistance and a safe environemnt, we will have to look at other alternatives. Bless you for caring for both your parents and aunt.
There are 3 nieces incl. me locally sharing the responsibility; our aunt has no children. As I am also the primary caregiver for my parents with little sibling help, I can't take on more care for my aunt and am being assertive about that. Had a talk w/ my aunt other day, told her it was too much of a burden for her neighbors to take care of her and her nieces can't do what they used to do. Seemed to help aunt realize she's better staying where she is. Hope this lasts but I realize another crisis is around the corner. Appreciate your advice edvierajr and lilliput.
Two months is a little too short to be deciding on whether an ALF is a good fit. But, depending on your loved one's situation, it is possible for him/her to live at home with a lot of planning and in-home care. However, the bottom line is, wherever your parent lives it requires that someone locally can check in with them and see if they are getting the best care possible. Is it possible for your parent to move closer to a family member? I think we need more info here before we can provide a few answers. And Ed is correct: the person who volunteers to take on this responsibility will most likely have it for life with little or no help from the fam. It is sad that it happens to be this way.
I assume you're not the one returning from AL. If that's the case, read on.
No family "can" or no family "won't"? Sounds to me like everyone else doesn't want to be bothered at all, and instead of sharing the responsibility they're trying to flip the script on you. Bottom line is that you can't do this alone, so remain assertive but open to suggestions.
Try identifying exactly what the individual needs help with, make a care plan complete with schedules, and present it to them as a family issue that requires everyone's input.
If that doesn't work, suggest they all pitch in to hire a Home Health Aide.
Good luck my friend, and let me know what happens.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
If you like the ALF she is in and you are all checking in on her, that sounds like she is being attended to.
I understand her anxiety. No one wants to go to a facility - no matter how nice it is. I am working really hard to keep my Mom out of one, but, if I can no longer provide her medical assistance and a safe environemnt, we will have to look at other alternatives.
Bless you for caring for both your parents and aunt.
Appreciate your advice edvierajr and lilliput.
Is it possible for your parent to move closer to a family member?
I think we need more info here before we can provide a few answers. And Ed is correct: the person who volunteers to take on this responsibility will most likely have it for life with little or no help from the fam. It is sad that it happens to be this way.
I assume you're not the one returning from AL. If that's the case, read on.
No family "can" or no family "won't"? Sounds to me like everyone else doesn't want to be bothered at all, and instead of sharing the responsibility they're trying to flip the script on you. Bottom line is that you can't do this alone, so remain assertive but open to suggestions.
Try identifying exactly what the individual needs help with, make a care plan complete with schedules, and present it to them as a family issue that requires everyone's input.
If that doesn't work, suggest they all pitch in to hire a Home Health Aide.
Good luck my friend, and let me know what happens.
-- ED