I just got back from my moms house and she raised up her gown sleeve and there's a big bruise she showed me. I asked her how she got it and she says she doesn't know. Mom is very fair-skinned, as I am, and bruises stick out like a sore thumb.
Mom is accusing the "help" now of stealing from her, saying she doesn't trust her any further than she can see her. Now while I know this is a characteristic of Dem/Alz those bruises are unexplainable and you best best, they will be dealt with.
Now I'm not going into what my plans are, but I will say that I've got some serious work ahead to do!
The stealing is another matter completely. My aunt used to go around the house collecting things for the volunteers who call and "have a truck in your area"... then she'd forget she gave it away. She'd call police to come investigate a break in. After my cousin realized she was claiming to miss things like the Hotpoint "ice box" from 194-something, he realized her dementia was getting bad.