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I'm sorry that you and your mother are in an abusive household. Due to the three generations mentioned, I wondered if you were a teenager or an adult? Are there children in the household? Abuse rarely stops without intervention and the entire family is being damaged. If you are an adult and don't take action you are in some ways complicit. If you see the abuse and don't get help it's like you are agreeing with the abusers. You are potentially in a frightening and dangerous situation. What you do next really matters. There are sites online that give advice. I'm glad you contacted this site but don't let posting here keep you from taking the action that might help your mother. Others have mentioned the police and I agree. If after intervention the two of them don't settle down, get mom to agree to leave with you. You may have to start in a shelter but regardless, what you are going through is no way to live. Read all you can about next steps. Be very careful. If it's verbal abuse, walk away. If it's physical abuse call the police. Best of luck to you.
If your mom is in fact a total victim who gets abused for no reason at all, file a report with the police. But if it takes 3 to tango then call the cops the next time they start laying their hands on each other. Have them all arrested. Maybe an overnight stay at the local precinct will cool them off for a while.
Jig - Does grandmother have dementia? Sorry your family life is not happy and you are in the midst of it. If you are a young person and being abused yourself, get help from protective services or any adult in your life you can trust. If mom is in danger of being physically hurt, or already has been, getting the both of you out to a shelter for DV victims would be ideal...
You must take your Father aside and lay it on the line! Either he is kind and supportive or you will take your Mom out of the dander, as you won't allow any more violence or cruelty against her. He is to treat her with Love, kindness and respect or the next time, you will call the Police, and have him or Grandmother arrested! No more abuse! Stick to your principles! Good luck!
This is a multi generational home, you live there as well? Your father and his mother are not likely to change, your mother will never be a good enough daughter-in-law and your father feels filial responsibility to side with his mother. If he loved and respected his wife he would have put his mother in her place long ago. Is your concern for your mother, or are you merely bothered because you have to live amongst continuous animosity? I know of one sure cure for your mother and you, get out. Counselling may help both of you to learn how to set boundaries in future relationships to avoid repeating the same patterns.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
If your mom is in fact a total victim who gets abused for no reason at all, file a report with the police. But if it takes 3 to tango then call the cops the next time they start laying their hands on each other. Have them all arrested. Maybe an overnight stay at the local precinct will cool them off for a while.
Your father and his mother are not likely to change, your mother will never be a good enough daughter-in-law and your father feels filial responsibility to side with his mother. If he loved and respected his wife he would have put his mother in her place long ago.
Is your concern for your mother, or are you merely bothered because you have to live amongst continuous animosity? I know of one sure cure for your mother and you, get out. Counselling may help both of you to learn how to set boundaries in future relationships to avoid repeating the same patterns.