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Up until this year he has been very active. He is aware of this and finds it very upsetting. My mother-in-law, 20 years his junior is also having a difficult time with accepting and understanding what is happening. How can we help them?
Thanks to both of you. My father-in law see's his doctor at Cedars regularly. I agree my mother-in-law needs to just agree rather than augue with him but yes, I think she is scared. The hardest part is when he starts talking about his first wife, who left him, and how he misses her in front of my mother-in-law. They have been married over 40 years and I know this must hurt her.
thergonz, I can understand how your Mom-in-law feels, as this isn't the retirement she and Dad-in-law had planned.
Now her hubby is in his full age decline, and she still has a long ways to go to catch up with him. So she is scared, scared that she would need to be full time caregiver and probably doesn't know what to do next [not everyone is cut out to be a caregiver], and scared that she will be alone. Therefore, she is probably angry with him, like how can he do this to her. These are all normal emotions.
Only thing I can suggest is for you and your husband to take his parents to places that they both really enjoy and where it is easy for Dad-in-law to be mobile. With Dad's memory problems, it is so much easier to just agree with Dad-in-law then to try to correct him. Mom-in-law needs to learn that, too.
I remember my late folks, my Mom was in total denial that she was getting older. She didn't even want my Dad to go outside with his new walker. She didn't want the neighbors to think they were getting old. Earth to Mom, you both are in your 90's !!
I hear your concern given how active he has been. I would take him for a full check up with the doctor. It could be general age related decline or maybe he has undiagnosed issue like cholesterol, diabetes, vascular dementia, or maybe his meds needs to be adjusted. There could be a variety of issues but hopefully a good doctor can help pinpoint this. I know good health must be in important to him since there has been no issues till now.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Now her hubby is in his full age decline, and she still has a long ways to go to catch up with him. So she is scared, scared that she would need to be full time caregiver and probably doesn't know what to do next [not everyone is cut out to be a caregiver], and scared that she will be alone. Therefore, she is probably angry with him, like how can he do this to her. These are all normal emotions.
Only thing I can suggest is for you and your husband to take his parents to places that they both really enjoy and where it is easy for Dad-in-law to be mobile. With Dad's memory problems, it is so much easier to just agree with Dad-in-law then to try to correct him. Mom-in-law needs to learn that, too.
I remember my late folks, my Mom was in total denial that she was getting older. She didn't even want my Dad to go outside with his new walker. She didn't want the neighbors to think they were getting old. Earth to Mom, you both are in your 90's !!
I hear your concern given how active he has been. I would take him for a full check up with the doctor. It could be general age related decline or maybe he has undiagnosed issue like cholesterol, diabetes, vascular dementia, or maybe his meds needs to be adjusted. There could be a variety of issues but hopefully a good doctor can help pinpoint this. I know good health must be in important to him since there has been no issues till now.