AZGroton Asked February 2022
My father is in the ER at the moment, and I'm not sure if I did the right thing. Any thoughts?
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You did what any loving child would do when looking after their parent, so don't beat yourself up, but instead look on the bright side that your father will now receive the help he needs.
She only stopped the attempts when she almost succeeded.
So, I have to disagree that it is always a cry for help.
I think in this man's case, he doesn't want to descend into dementia and have no quality of life.
His mistake was doing it where his daughter would find him, that was selfish.
If he is angry when/if he wakes up, it may be because of his own suicide attempt and physical issues rather than your initiative to do right by him.
Be at peace that you did all you could on his behalf.
If your dad wishes not to live any longer when he recovers from this suicidal act, he needs to talk to his doctors about no longer treating his physical ailments. He needs to be seen by a psychiatrist to have his depression treated. In short, he needs to approach his end of life issues in a rational way that does not harm those around him.
You have/had no way of knowing if this was a suicidal gesture gone wrong or a real act of "I no longer wish to live". If you found him, he may have assumed you would find him and save him.
Although I would be furious at a parent for doing this, consider that he may be attempting to "not be a burden". Maybe facility living would be a better idea.