My father has been living with me since September 2010, he is having a really hard time letting go of his independence, he constantly cuts me down or even sometimes try and hit me and cuss me out telling me I tricked him into living with me. His family (sister) up north wanted to put him in a home, but I didn't want that for him so I drove him back here to live with me. I am mentally and physically drained from his abusive language. He good for days then he has a spell and gets violent. I have a home care nurse for him 5 days a week while I work, he can't see nor hardly walk. He was a heavy drinker all his life and has absolutely no respect for no one ever. I am losing all my get up and go and feel like whats the point. Everyone warned me, but I wanted him to have a nice home where he could be taken care of and have his little dog with him so he could live out the rest of his life happy. I feel like I am just kidding myself that I can help him cause he doesn't want any help. The only other option is a home, as none of the family wants anything to do with him at all.
Work hard to keep in mind that YOU are NOT in the wrong, you are attempting something that is beautiful and precious. Best wishes.
I can see him being angry over your tricking him and I think the family up north could see what was coming if you took this on. Before he destroys you or kills you, he needs to go to a home where people who are not related to him can take care of him.
"Give not that which is holy to the dogs, neither cast you your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you. " Matthew 7:6: