He has a bad hip, which was damaged after a bad fall in 2020. I don't know what to do. He is constantly being sent to the hospital, and I keep telling him to just stay in his wheelchair. He hates having the staff at the Assisted Living help him, but he falls all the time and now may have given himself a concussion. I am afraid the Assisted Living will say he can't live there anymore, and he has had horrible experiences in skilled nursing facilities and rehabs. He was locked up in a behavioral unit because the staff came in during the night with flashlights and scared him. It is just way too stressful trying to help him, but he is convinced if he has help, the staff will abuse him in some way.
Also, most ALFs agree to keep a resident for LIFE if they're on hospice care. Find out what your dad's ALF rules are pertaining to all this; you need to know so you're not blindsided one day if/when they ask him to leave and then you're like OMG NOW WHAT??!! I tell you, that was my biggest fear with both of my parents; but when dad went on hospice, the ALF kept him in spite of him being a two person assist!!!! So find out what you're dealing with at your dad's ALF and go from there.
As far as the falling goes, I swear we tried everything and NOTHING would prevent mom from falling. N O T H I N G. When hospice came into the picture, they brought her a wheelchair that tilted BACK a little, and that did stop her from falling out of it. But she still kept falling off the toilet and out of bed/off of her recliner b/c she too refused to ask for help.
Since your dad has Parkinson's, it sounds like he also has some PD related dementia that often goes along with it. Unrealistic fears about the staff abusing him = agitation that you may get the doctor to prescribe Ativan or something similar to help him with. Worth a try, right?
Sorry you are dealing with such stress, I feel your pain. GOOD LUCK!
It was almost a relief to me when he ended up completely bedridden after almost dying from aspiration pneumonia, as I no longer had to worry about him falling and me having to call 911 to come get him up.
Unfortunately if things keep going like they are, your father may very well have to be placed in a nursing facility whether he likes it or not, as his care is requiring more than an assisted living facility can provide.
You want your father safe and well cared for I know. Sometimes there just aren't any easy answers, and sometimes it boils down to the lesser of the 2 evils that we must go with.
I wish you and your father the very best.