I do want to die before my husband. Caregiving to my mom did me in.
I have been married for 41 years. As we age, sometimes I think about how I would cope if I had to watch my husband suffer and die. I don’t think I would do very well.
My heart goes out to everyone caring for a spouse.
On the other hand he wanted to die first so he would not have to witness my mom's continued decline. The disease had completely ravaged her brain.
He died first on their 10th anniversary and mom's 90th birthday. I believe he waited for that 10th anniversary as he believed mom's social security benefit would increase. It didn't, according to ts2, because mom's pension was too much.