His leg was amputated and he has suffered two strokes. Prior to the last stroke he did pretty good on his own but now he is really weak on his left side. She is willing to bring him home with her but he is opposed to the idea because he feels he is going to be a burden on her. She is still trying to talk him in to it, because she doesn't want him home by himself every day. I forgot to mention she usually checks on him daily but since his situation has changed she is worried; so am I as I'm dealing with the loss of my dad this past September. She was there with me through hospice and everything and I want to do the same for her. If anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it.
He may make too much to get free assistance. Is he on medicare? If so, it is possible that home health care services will be covered at home. Like PT, OT, a homemaker, for example. He may need to pay extra to get someone to stay with him if that is necessary.
He should not go home alone, obviously, but it sounds as if he wants his independence, such as it is and she should respect that.
I'm sorry for the loss of YOUR father, but that should not influence your friend. She is certainly aware he does not have 20 years left. Having a close but distant relationship will keep them both healthy and happy.