am caring for 91yr old dad..PTSD and early demential..i have cancer and stress is unbearable. i am caring for dad alone. i am stage 4 leukemia and lymphoma and need to take care of myself. i also have to work full time to take care of all financial responsibilites. i am so depressed and find myself getting angry, he does not have a clue and is very difficult to deal with. i could really use some support, get none from family
paula, I have no idea how you are doing this. I a wondering if any therapy is available as part of your treatment or if you have gone to a grief group. It may be too soon for you. Everyone has their own timetable. I found it very helpful.
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I wasn't intending in any way to minimize the severity of the loss or the horror of having her father say such a vicious thing. Sorry if it came out sounding like that.
Especially sorry to you, paulabeth, if my comments were hurtful. I have the greatest sympathy for you, with your terrible fresh grief.
Anyone who has not lost a child has no idea of the stress and pain a bereaved parent goes through and how these comments hurt. I have heard from many bereaved parents how even much more innocent comments hurt. Truthfully a bereaved parent of only one years is hardly in a position to try to understand anyone else when their world has been torn apart and their life will never be the same. Maybe 5 years later and maybe not even then.
You have to have been there to understand... It is pain like no other.
Just being sassy. You are having a real hard time. I have a daughter - 23 - who sometimes has a hard time with life. I occasionally imagine what it would be like if anything happened to her - then I quickly think about something else. God bless you.
I can hear those words coming out of my father's mouth, and I know why he would say such a horrible thing. It would cause him such misery to think about his dear little grandson being that unhappy. As a man, he would come up with something to say to minimize his feelings.
I don't say you should listen to him say it. Just realize that Dad is not purely being nasty, that he's hurting too. Then you can continue to think of him as a good, if clueless person. I want to think that my parents are at least sort of good people, if I can. (Sorry, Emjo!)
Please put your health first. Keep us up to date on how it's going.
I hope you get a quick solution to your situation so you can concentrate on you. You are under a huge amount of pressure and even venting helps. If you run into road blocks in getting this set up I expect there are some here who can help. Others have had to place their parent as it was too difficult to care for them. You are not alone. (((((((hugs))))))) Please come back and let us know how you are.