We are both in our 80's with different needs...my huband already has short term memory loss but is as nimble as a mountain goat. I am physically frail but at this time only use a cane and get regular cortisone injections. We have put in a chair lift (for me) and also have a CapTel machine for the hearing impaired (also for me), I feel we have taken good pro-active steps for now. We love our home and he is adamant about not leaving so we need to look into layers of care coming in. We already have a cleaner, a mower, and a gardener...everything else we can manage. I tease him and tell him he is my body and I am his mind.
You might consider working with a service such as A Place For Mom.
In fact we have several really nice ones in the city I live and several more in the surrounding areas.
You typically have to get your name on a waiting list for the nicer ones, so I would recommend doing that sooner than later. And if one opens up and your still not ready to make the move you just tell them you're not ready right now, and you will continue to stay on the list and they will continue to call you when a spot opens up.
Best wishes in getting this all figured out before you actually need it.
But my suggestion is if you find one that you find acceptable , ask if you can be on a waiting list . Where I live they have wait lists and if your name comes up and you aren’t ready yet , you can decline and they will offer the unit to the next person on the list . This way your name eventually is at the top of the list when you are ready. Again if you aren’t ready even when you are at the top , you can decline and they can skip you to the next on the list . This can be as long as you want it to be until you are ready .
Ask if that is available by you . By me it’s typically a refundable deposit to be on the list . You can take yourself off the list any time and get your deposit back .
If you live there the deposit is applied to first months rent .
Thanks for posting.
Assistance of any kind has become harder to find since COVID-19.