My mom is 97 and of relatively sound mind. She is frail and lives with my dad who is almost 93 and has Alzheimer's. I won't go into details as some of the details have been addressed in prior questions but it is becoming necessary for them to live separately. I haven't in earnest started the conversation with the facility where they live but they are aware of the situation and feel it would be best for my mom as well. My main concern is financial. My parents have a comfortable supply of money to maintain the status quo for a few more years because my dad's care bill is as the main resident and my mom's bill is considerably less as the second resident. Has anyone else had to deal with this financial decision? I am their POA.
While together, Dad was given the code to the door and had extra privileges and options: join Assisted Living for trips, use the code to go get ice cream & popcorn at will, join AL residents in the clubhouse, for more programs, etc. (AL at this facility is just on the other side of the door.)
The split was hard on Dad because he "has to take care of" Mom. He finally had to be given time limits for when he can visit her...still difficult, though.
We are just watching finances closely! And so is the facility. They only have "x" Medicaid beds, but have said (and shown us) that they will do all they can to hold onto those for parents when the time comes!
Find a director you like and feel you can trust! God bless you! It's quite a journey.
I feel for you..it is not a good dilemma to be in. Does the assisted living or memory care allow roommates? Maybe your parents can live separately with roommates to cut down on expenses?