My father who is in denial over my mother having Alzheimers is taking it out on her from time to time. I need to know what legal steps to take as he does have power of attorney. What is the best step to take. I live in the house and I work a full-time job. My mother goes to Adult Day Care Monday thru Friday. My father works maybe twelve hours a week.
Do you have any siblings who can help you convince him to see a doctor to guide him through accepting that she has AD? Not every spouse is a good caregiver, even when they accept the disease. But acceptance can help.
Good luck,
Carol
If you can possibly get him to discuss this with Mom's doctor, as Carol says, I think that would be a very positive thing.
Good luck!
We have asked other family members to step in and speak with him. If he knows it is okay to have a caregiver in the house or use a nursing home and that the family will not blame. That it would be in her best interest.
Caring4
Thanks jeannegibbs.
Caring4
Does he get plenty of respite? Does he bowl or golf or play darts or just hang out at a bar once in a while? As it gets harder and harder to accept and deal with his wife's decline it is probably more important than ever that he maintains some kind of life of his own.
I'm glad that you are encouraging him to accept help.