Home care aide fired and now sending nasty texts and emails. Any advice?

Her father's criminal past has nothing to do with her. No need to try to conenct it to make her sound worse because she sunds bad enough.
Take these texts and emails to the agency she works for and the police.
Explain to the cops that she used to be a caregiver to your mother but she was let go for being abusive and negligent.
The police will probably refer you over to the court to petition for a restraining order against her. You will probably be able to get one.

In your last post about this 'aide', you neglected to answer all of the questions we asked of you:

https://www.agingcare.com/questions/brother-wants-to-keep-the-aide-coordinator-for-our-mother-when-i-want-to-let-her-go-475857.htm?orderby=recent

How do I deal with my brother who wants to keep the aide/coordinator for our Mother when I want to let her go?


This aide is very difficult and has done an awful job coordinating and taking care of the logistics of the job. She has been verbally abusive to my Mom. She has been very disrespectful to me and has not sent me texts while my Mother is in the hospital. My brother is siding with the aide and now I cannot communicate with any of the other aides. It's madness. I just found out that she lost her LPN license, was fired from her last job and her Father is a convicted murder of a 17 year old girl. She also has trashed my family and saying cruel things. Help? I do have someone who can take over immediately who is great. Thank you for taking the time to help me out. I greatly appreciate it.

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We asked, was this 'aide' from an agency or privately hired? Who is the POA? And lots of other questions. Now you're asking more questions about what to do now that she's sending you ugly texts & emails. I would send her an email and a text saying that all of her communications are being forwarded directly to the POLICE DEPARTMENT in your town, and all replies will be from them moving forward.

When I get spam emails telling me my account has been charged for a service I did not request, I respond telling them I've forwarded their email to the Federal Trade Commission and to the FBI.GOV. I NEVER hear from that company again. Oftentimes a mere threat is enough to get rid of an obnoxious person.

Save all messages and communication, and document all calls.

Someone "making up lies" and expressing them publicly could be engaging in libel, and sued for that behavior. However, there probably would be a level at which litigation would be appropriate, i.e., if the caregiver makes statements publicly and continues to do. Libel is a tricky charge, so you'd need to discuss the situation with an attorney.

In the meantime, you can respond with a cease and desist demand, sent by certified mail as well as texts (same copies). Research this topic before sending to ensure that you're covering all necessary elements.

Also, check with your local county, or police as to whether or not your county and/or state issues PPOs, Personal Protection Orders, and consider requesting one for your mother, you and your brother. These generally (in my experience) aren't as restrictive as TROs (Temporary Restraining Order) and can (at least in my state) be granted by a judge w/o a hearing.

Just curious, was the aide hired privately or through an agency? Save the emails/texts and as mentioned, ignore/block them.

I would send a written message (letter, email or text) written in an assertive tone -requesting an immediate stop to all communication. Advise all calls/txt/emails will be blocked & unread from now on.

This person may not stop of course, but you will have stated your posotion clearly.

Then block & ignore.

If at any time this person approaches in person or visits the property, inform Police & take the steps towards a formal warning of harrassment being made.

Could probably report him to the police for harassment... but I doubt they'd really care. Just ignore them and eventually they'll stop.