So sorry you are going through such a tough time right now. Can you hire some help to come in to give you a little break? Even once a week for a few hours? Try to squeeze in some self care.
Of course, hospice doesn't "know" when your mom will pass and are just giving their best, educated guess. It's really hard to know for sure. Hopefully she is being kept comfortable and pain free. That's about the best I hope for for end-of-life care.
How long have you been caring for your sister? Is that a permanent or short term situation? Can she help you at all? At least sit in the same room with your mom and talk to her?
Im going through this too alone. My mother 95, is in hospice care and I'm here alone giving her morphine and other meds to keep her comfortable. I don't have the heart to send her to the hospice house now that she seems to be fading fast . Hospice sends a CNA 2x a week to clean my mother and her bedroom but she can't offer support. The hospice nurse comes 1 day a week for 15 minutes but that's ok. She's a wonderful person but I wish my family would visit . I'm so sad most days and it is very difficult doing this alone . Remember though, you really aren't alone as I'm sure so many of us daughters and sons are going through this same thing. God bless you.
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼Please take care of yourself too. I’m so sorry 😢 to hear you going through this alone. Did mom have a religious affiliation leader? Someone who knows her? What about family & / or friends? Ask more of hospice...to come every day to wash her. Play her favorite music 🎶. Hugs 🤗
I'm so sorry that you are having to deal with all this right now, and that you don't have family or friends to help you. And you are correct, it is like being on an emotional rollercoaster. If hospice is saying that mom only has days left, then they should be coming out every day to be with her and you. And if they are not, you can request that they do so. That way you won't feel so alone. You can also request their chaplain to come out if you want. It's tough, I know. I lost my husband who was under hospice care almost 6 months ago now. Just make sure that you are leaving nothing unsaid between you and your mom. And remember too, that hearing is the last sense to go, so your mom can still hear you even if she doesn't respond or acknowledge what you say. I pray that God will give you His strength and peace as you walk through this trying time.
Of course, hospice doesn't "know" when your mom will pass and are just giving their best, educated guess. It's really hard to know for sure. Hopefully she is being kept comfortable and pain free. That's about the best I hope for for end-of-life care.
How long have you been caring for your sister? Is that a permanent or short term situation? Can she help you at all? At least sit in the same room with your mom and talk to her?
Hugs 🤗