I can't even though hes 89 and bad health. He's 89 weighs about 100lbs. I dress, bathe, help him out of bed. Some days he hss strength to push walker other days its a wheel chair. He's on oxygen all the time snd still has a hard time breathing. He has copd, emphysema, prostste cancer. It hurts to see him struggle to breathe. But I just cant give him morphine around the clock for no reason. Am I wrong? I haved prayed that he goes in his sleep. His mind is still sharp.
He might be saying no or be indifferent because he senses you aren't comfortable with it. My dad began increasing his use toward the end..to maximize his comfort. There were times when he wouldn't ask but I could see it in his eyes that he needed something. I always gave it to him. My mom couldn't and it was part of her needing to hang on and wanting more awake and lucid vs sleepy and zoned out.
It sounds like hospice thinks he is entering a new end phase. Please talk more with them. They have so much more experience with these things and palliative care then we do. Try to trust them. Ultimately it's yours and dads decision, but it's okay and you can be at peace with it.