How and what do you do to not get depressed as a caregiver?

I feel for you.
Glad you are writing to us.
You need to figure how what you can do NOW to make changes.
What is your / his financial situation?
- What can he afford?
- Find out what Medi-Care or other - Is he entitled to Medi-Cal?
* Enlist the support of a social worker
* You DO NOT want to be on 24/7. You will burn out - as you are doing.
You cannot continue on like this.

With support, find out what his health care / financial options are.
Then, make a decision from there.

Realize that you do not need to do this 24/7.
You can be there as you can - although if you do not take care of your own well-being / health, you will not be there for yourself or him.

Please get in therapy and a support group. Call County (Senior Services) and see what is available to you locally.

Rather than control your anxiety and all the other pent up feelings and emotions you have, you need to get them OUT. Stuffing them in will back-fire on you.
Find out how to manage your anxiety (i.e., meditation, deep controlled conscious breathing, exercise). We understand ... many of us have been there - or here - now. We manage we best we can.

You cannot continue on like this. Find out what resources are available to yourself and him.

Gena / Touch Matters

Why is he no longer independent? Perhaps he is depressed? Or is it a physical disability. Did he go through rehab; if so, was he cooperative or refused to do the prescribed exercises.