I have my 91 year old mom with dementia and Parkinson's and my 90 year old dad with shortness of breath and kidney failure. Up until a month ago dad could take care of mom at night keeping her covered up. It stresses him out if he thinks she is uncovered and cold. He can't sleep good with her with her legs in the air and talking. I am at my wits end cuz dad calls me to cover her up. Neither one of us is getting much sleep. Is there some kind of cover you can buy to keep them tucked in? Any advice will be appreciated.
Today he said it slides off and takes the other covers with it.
Yup, we are in that gap where we sleep better apart... We both snore, so we tell each other.. I DO NOT SNORE ... snork snork.. :) quite loudly I have to admit.. I woke myself up a few times.
I did use the polar fleece blankets, they are warm but breathe and they are light weight. (They also wash and dry fast so if they become soiled cleaning is easier.) I used the Twin Extra Long and they were perfect for this.
Maybe a room heater.
I would also be getting them twin beds so he isn't being awakened by her aerobic exercises during the night.
I would also put a white noise machine to muffle some of the noise.
I don't know how you keep an active sleeper covered, I always had to use heavier sleepwear.
Your dad wants it, not her. My mom would purposely live the covers only half way on her body.
I would ask her how she feels about the covers. The other thing that he may not realize is that motor skills diminish with Parkinson’s disease so my mom absolutely hated getting tangled up in covers.
Best of luck to you, honey -- you've got a big job taking care of two parents.
Most elderly people are no longer sharing a bed. It has all to do with getting a decent night's sleep. My DH travels a lot and so he is really used to spreading out on a King Size bed and I literally have one tiny corner to call my own. AND he wakes up all night long and either turns the TV on! or turns his phone on and watches stuff or flips through FB. B/C of the dynamic of being in a King bed all alone 75% of time, he has the habits of yanking all the covers, etc.
I'd LOVE to be able to sleep next to my sweetie and actually GET a night's sleep, and sometimes I do, but it requires a sleeping pill, ear plugs an eye mask and the thinnest cotton pjs I own. And I still wind up moving rooms during the night.
I've heard good things about the "Buffy" (which has made me laugh b/c my name IS Buffy and they will give me a 25% discount for that alone!! But it's for people who are cold and they are quite expensive. Maybe I'll get one for DH who's birthday is on Valentine's Day. He, of course will be out of town.
Twin beds, or even 2 queens if the room allows it so dad can still see mom and see that she is OK. They do make sleeping bag type comforters that fit the bed and you just zip them up as much as you like. Cannot think of the name, all my grands have them. I'll come back and post the link to their site.
But your poor father. Are separate bedrooms out of the question? Does your mother need attention during the night (toileting, changing, reassuring, e.g.), or is she essentially just talking amongst herself?
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