I think I am caving in. My husband requires more and more assistance which I try to give him in the most loving and caring way. His dementia must have entered a new phase. All of a sudden I get mocked and scoffed at and outright resistance when I ask him even the smallest favor, like to please sit straight on the toilet seat to avoid another disaster, or brush his teeth, which he insists he already did. I feel so frustrated and angry. I realize that his reasoning ability is gone and I must keep my calm, but how can I combat the resentment that is slowly building up in me.
Alpha, I guess you have shown me what I can look forward to. Lucky us.
Make an appointment with your Dr. and see about getting on an antidepressant. If you're already on one, explain to the Dr. how you feel so he can either add another one or put you on something else more effective. A pill isn't going to change your circumstances but it may help with the way you perceive them.
2) Get some help with your husband. You have to have some time to yourself. You have to get out of situation that is causing your resentment regularly. Of course you love your husband. But you still need regular breaks from him.
I speak from experience. I cared for my husband with dementia for 10 years, and I have a major depressive disorder. These are not do-it-yourself projects -- at least not do it alone!