My father is 83 years old and lives alone (about 100 miles away from me). My 3 brothers live within a few miles of him. Within the past four years we have noticed he has been slipping a little mentally – mostly forgetting small things like names, appointments, etc. Not nearly severe enough that he needs supervision, but his forgetfulness is becoming more frequent. He lives in a rural farming community. Our concern lies mostly with the relationships he has with some of his neighbors (all women, 20 to 40 years younger than him). These women are married but have an inappropriate interest in our father. One in particular brings him meals frequently, calls him constantly, stops by his house often, and overall acts like she cares about him as a friend. However, I have recently learned that over the years my father paid for her new well, new flooring, fees for horse shows her daughter enters, and several other things. The most recent incident that has put us all over the top involves this neighbor’s daughter. She talked our father into allowing Rainbow Company to demonstrate their vacuum in his home. He agreed to it, watched the demonstration, and then bought a $3,000 vacuum he does not need or want (his words). And in doing so, the daughter received her vacuum free because my father bought one (yes, I have contacted Rainbow and lodged a complaint). Regarding the other women, he has fixed numerous things in their homes (at his expense), bought one of them a Bose radio, bought another a plane ticket so she could visit her sister, repaired their cars, and the list goes on and on. We have all expressed our concerns with our father about him being taken advantage of by these women. He kind of brushes it off and changes the subject (I think because he is embarrassed). My dad is very intelligent and has lots of good friends and family. However, he is very naive when it comes to these women and their true intentions. The women all live in close proximity to each other and my father. The women don’t get along with each other, but they all have an inappropriate interest in my father. My brothers and I strongly believe these women have befriended him to get as much out of him financially as possible, and it’s working. I am joint on his checking account and recently discovered he is writing several checks totaling approximately $800 each month to charities, political organizations, and any organization that sends him junk mail requesting money. My brothers and I are sickened about how much he is throwing away on these women and on money-grubbing organizations. None of us have ever asked for or expected as much as a penny from our father. We are only interested in his wellbeing. But his slightly increased forgetfulness and recent health issues have us very concerned that things could quickly get out of control. My father recently appointed me as his Power of Attorney (medical POA too). However, there is nothing legally my brothers or I can do to stop his financial recklessness. We believe our best option at this point is to confront the women who are taking advantage of him. But how, since he technically is giving them everything voluntarily? He is being manipulated by them and cannot see it because he thinks they truly care about him. I know this is incredibly long, and I will be amazed if anyone actually takes the time to read my entire post. But if you did, thank you! I welcome any sound advice you can offer.