My 93 yo mother is at the point where she is not able to leave her home without assistance from the local Fire Dept. She has to go up and down 15 steps in order to go to a Dr. visit and they come and carry her down and back up when we return. They are not always available and when that happens we miss appointments. Home Health sent out a physical therapist and she deemed it unsafe for my mother to live alone now. We have no options to correct that and Home Health with not send out anyone to do physical therapy with her unless someone is living with her full time, that just doesn't make sense to me. So my question is....what are we to do now?
He passed away before he had to suffer the indignity of being in "a home".
Cost IS the problem, but start looking anyway. Your mom is in danger and if someone (even the HHAgency) reports her as an endangered adult, they will remove her forcibly from the home. (Worst case--don't panic).
So, take a deep breath and start making some phone calls. If she's mobile except for stairs, maybe senior housing could work. Or AL or is the situation is worse than
just not being able to get down the stairs, a NH might be in order.
Or as already stated above, you or someone else would have to move in with her. But that would not solve the serious issue of not being able to get her out of the house.
I don't know but it doesn't really seem like the Fire Dept should be the ones getting your mom in and out of her house. They are for fighting fires and medical emergencies. This is not an emergency, but a chronic ongoing situation that needs a full-time solution.
This is a hard time of life. But people make it much harder by refusing to adapt to their new circumstances. Right now, your mom is not able to get out of her house in an emergency. That's not okay.